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Monday, May 23, 2011
Thursday, April 28, 2011
Looong update - Written Monday 4/25
Once again…sorry for disappearing. J The worst part about not updating very often is that there’s so much more to update! SO this will probably be a very rambly post! I’m writing this from Charlie’s hospital room, and I’ll post it when I find some Internet. Since there’s so much to update, I’ll try and divide this post into categories.
Currently: My poor little guy has already had two ER visits, and this one ended in a hospital stay. He’s ok, but he has an infection of some sort and they’re keeping him for observation. Which I am happy about – which is odd, but he’s so sick that I’m really not comfortable bringing him home until we get some answers. Last Friday evening, we noticed Charlie was having a harder time breathing. I brought him to the ER and we spent the whole night there. Charlie’s cardiologist had taken him off all of his meds, but Charlie still needed one of them – Lasix. So, they gave him some in his IV and kept him long enough to make sure he got better. But he still had trouble breathing all weekend and by Sunday I knew we had a sick kid on our hands. I prayed he’d be fine throughout the night because I REALLY needed the rest before another ER visit! On Monday morning (today) he quickly deteriorated and had a fever, so it was off to the ER! So far, we haven’t pinpointed an infection, but we’re still waiting for the blood cultures. One doctor thinks it’s pneumonia, even though his chest xray is clear and he really doesn’t have any pneumonia symptoms, besides a high fever. Right now Charlie is on antibiotics, and they’ve increased his Lasix. His oxygen sats are in the 80’s (they should be above 95) so occasionally he gets a little oxygen. Right now he is sleeping, and his sats are always lower when he’s sleeping, so his alarm is going off every 30 seconds. Luckily, I learned from Brennan’s hospital stay, and I don’t jump up every time the alarm goes off. I know when to be concerned and when not to be! Hopefully we’ll be able to go home tomorrow with some antibiotics, but I’m hoping we get a definitive diagnosis unless he’s suddenly doing much better. We may also be able to get his swallow study done while we are here too, it just depends on if they are busy and if we’re here long enough. Otherwise, he has one scheduled for May 12th, but it would be nice to get it done now. I think he may be aspirating when he drinks, especially when he’s tired. The swallow study will show us what’s going on when he eats, and we may have him drink thickened fluids if he is aspirating. At some point, we’ll need to get a sleep study done too! I’m pretty sure he has sleep apnea, and that can make pulmonary hypertension worse, so we’ll need to take care of that.
Earlier: Charlie had his cardiologist appointment one week ago. He had an echo done, which showed he had a PDA and a “huge” VSD. The VSD is what is causing the pulmonary hypertension, which is thought to be a very high. The plan is to do a heart catheterization, which will tell us more about what is going on in his heart and lungs. From there, we’ll start treating the PH and get it down to a degree where he can safely have surgery to close the VSD. He may have the PDA closed during the cath procedure, but they may need to leave it open until his open heart surgery. We have the best doctors for him – the head of the heart cath team (or whatever) will be doing the cath alongside the expert in PH. Then, the PH doctor will be Charlie’s doctor. We’re at one of the Top 10 hospitals in the US, and one of the best for hearts. So Charlie is in good hands!
Before that: Charlie and Brennan have been getting along great! I was a little worried, because Brennan would get jealous every time I was holding another kid. But he has been very gentle and sweet. When they first met, we showed Brennan “gentle” by having him gently pat Charlie’s tummy. It helps that we do this with the cat all the time, so B is familiar with “gentle”. Ever since then B has been gentle! He seems to intuitively understand that Charlie needs to be treated that way, and he’ll bring Charlie his toys when he drops them and he talks to him in a sweet little voice. It’s super cute. He’s getting over the novelty of Charlie at this point, and mostly ignores him. He does NOT approve of Charlie wearing his slippers, so we’ll have to get Charlie his own slippers! It’s been interesting adjusting to two toddlers in the house. Brennan is forced to be a little more independent – which we started practicing before Charlie came home. He’s now a pro at backing up over the bottom of the gate and zooming down the stairs, and he’s getting good at walking next to me holding my hand while I carry Charlie (although I can carry both of them when I’m wearing Charlie!). The hardest part is feeding them both breakfast at the same time! Brennan always wants what someone else has, no matter what it is, so he thinks Charlie MUST be getting something better than him. There may have been one or two times where I accidentally fed one kid the other kid’s food in an early morning stupor…but I’m not telling! I did take them both to Target, just to see if I could. I can.
Brennan: He is really turning into a little boy. It’s adorable, but sad. No more Baby B! He is all boy. He learned the sign for bug the first time I showed it to him, and he’s happiest playing outside and digging in the dirt. When I take him outside, he spends the whole time trying to run into the neighbor’s yard. But he really loves playing outside at the grandparents’ houses. He’d spend all day outside if he could! He knows around 25 signs and would know a lot more if I taught him J. Sometimes he signs along with Signing Times. Brennan’s been ‘helpful’ lately. For example, if I am folding laundry he’ll come over and ‘help’ by shaking out the clothes and smooshing(folding) them. Usually he ends up running around with a shirt and messing up my piles! Lately Brennan has been spitting out his milk, and when he does I had him a towel and he wipes it up himself! And if he ever finds a Kleenex or napkin, he blows his nose and then throws it away! He’s just the cutest one year old I have ever seen!
Tuesday, April 19, 2011
Oh, the cuteness!
The news from the cardiologist was not what I was hoping to hear, but the good news is he's doing well (oxygen sats are good, blood pressure is good, etc.). Charlie has a large VSD as well as a PDA. His pulmonary hypertension is pretty high. I'll give more details later, I'm still digesting everything. :)
Sunday, April 17, 2011
Sorry for the huge delay in posting...
We got home on Thursday around midnight. He's been doing very well! We didn't have Internet overseas, so I couldn't update, and I've been too tired and busy since then. Adjusting to two kids is interesting! Especially when they have different sleep schedules! I'm working on changing Charlie's schedule to be more in line with Brennan's, to a schedule that does NOT involve waking up at 6AM! I will never get used to waking up at 6AM. Let's just not even try. This morning he slept in to close to 7, so there's hope!
Charlie is adjusting well to family life. He knows I'm his mama, and he gets so excited and puts his arms up when he sees me! He seems to like his brother and laughs at him, but he's indifferent most of the time. He's used to all sorts of little kids running around and he doesn't have a real connection with Brennan yet. Brennan, however, is doing amazing with having a brother! He's very sweet and gentle, and brings Charlie toys. He doesn't seem to be jealous or upset, although he does "claim" us sometimes by running over and hugging us or laying his head in our lap. It's so crazy to see them together. Brennan is 1.5 and Charlie is 3.5, but Brennan is HUGE compared to Charlie. They are the same length (31 inches) but B is almost 26 lbs and C is only 16 lbs. He is very tiny. Brennan has a little pot belly and thunder thighs, and Charlie has noodle legs and you can count his ribs. People are shocked when they find out the age difference.
Charlie has already been to the pediatrician, and he has a cardiology appointment tomorrow morning. I am actually looking forward to the cardio appt, because hopefully a lot of questions will be answered. He'll have an echo done, and we should find out exactly what is going on with his heart and what we will do about it. We were told he was an ASD and a high degree of pulmonary hypertension. Which may be true, but medical records from this country are not known to be reliable. Also, he may have a second defect - it was mentioned by one person, but it's not in his records, which really doesn't mean much. But hopefully, after tomorrow, I'll be able to say something besides "I don't know" when people ask questions about his heart! People are already asking me when he'll have surgery, and he's only been home for three days! I hope to learn a lot tomorrow.
Next up I need to make appointments for ENT, the Adoption Clinic, the opthamologist, and the nutritionist. I strongly suspect Charlie needs his tonsils and adenoids out, and that he has sleep apnea (likely due to his tonsils). Then we need to initiate services through the school district. The poor kid - we've got a lot to get through in the next few months! Luckily, his teeth are in great shape, so I'm holding off on the dentist for just a little bit. Charlie can be a little orally defensive, and it's just not something we need to push at the moment! We've got a lot of work ahead of us. I'm just so glad he's HERE!
Charlie is adjusting well to family life. He knows I'm his mama, and he gets so excited and puts his arms up when he sees me! He seems to like his brother and laughs at him, but he's indifferent most of the time. He's used to all sorts of little kids running around and he doesn't have a real connection with Brennan yet. Brennan, however, is doing amazing with having a brother! He's very sweet and gentle, and brings Charlie toys. He doesn't seem to be jealous or upset, although he does "claim" us sometimes by running over and hugging us or laying his head in our lap. It's so crazy to see them together. Brennan is 1.5 and Charlie is 3.5, but Brennan is HUGE compared to Charlie. They are the same length (31 inches) but B is almost 26 lbs and C is only 16 lbs. He is very tiny. Brennan has a little pot belly and thunder thighs, and Charlie has noodle legs and you can count his ribs. People are shocked when they find out the age difference.
Charlie has already been to the pediatrician, and he has a cardiology appointment tomorrow morning. I am actually looking forward to the cardio appt, because hopefully a lot of questions will be answered. He'll have an echo done, and we should find out exactly what is going on with his heart and what we will do about it. We were told he was an ASD and a high degree of pulmonary hypertension. Which may be true, but medical records from this country are not known to be reliable. Also, he may have a second defect - it was mentioned by one person, but it's not in his records, which really doesn't mean much. But hopefully, after tomorrow, I'll be able to say something besides "I don't know" when people ask questions about his heart! People are already asking me when he'll have surgery, and he's only been home for three days! I hope to learn a lot tomorrow.
Next up I need to make appointments for ENT, the Adoption Clinic, the opthamologist, and the nutritionist. I strongly suspect Charlie needs his tonsils and adenoids out, and that he has sleep apnea (likely due to his tonsils). Then we need to initiate services through the school district. The poor kid - we've got a lot to get through in the next few months! Luckily, his teeth are in great shape, so I'm holding off on the dentist for just a little bit. Charlie can be a little orally defensive, and it's just not something we need to push at the moment! We've got a lot of work ahead of us. I'm just so glad he's HERE!
Thursday, March 31, 2011
We're home!
We spent two days traveling - two nights with no sleep! - and now we are home!
Court went well, and we are now the parents of Charles Gabriel Andreev Meyer!
On Tuesday, our facilitator and translator met with us before court to tell us what to expect. Apparently, in our region the judge is quite thorough. Then we sat in the hallway for about an hour and a half before we finally got started, an hour late. We were actually hoping we'd start late, because then we would get asked fewer questions because the judge would be in a hurry! In the courtroom we the judge, 2 jurors, the secretary, prosecutor, social worker/inspector, baby house representative, our facilitator and translator, and us. I was very nervous! It went smoothly though. I was the "speaker", so I stood and talked about our family, our home, and why we wanted to adopt Charlie. One juror asked us about our home, one asked if Brennan was our biological or adopted son. The prosecutor asked why we wanted to adopt, because we were so young and could make more biological babies. (We got MANY comments about how young we are during the whole process!) The baby house rep and the social worker talked about Charlie's records and the fact that no Ukrainians wanted to adopt him because of his health conditions. The judge and jurors left to make their decision, and everyone else left too, because they knew the judge would say yes! And he did, of course! He came back in and announced his decision, told us good luck, and that was it. The whole thing took about 40 minutes, and that includes a lot of formalities at the beginning. Our translator said "You just gave birth!" :)
After court, we went to visit Charlie, then got on the train to Kiev. It's really hard to sleep on the train, but I set my alarm just in case. I set it for half an hour before we were supposed to arrive. I did fall asleep somewhere in the early morning, but about 20 minutes later someone was knocking on our door! The train lady handed us our tickets back, but didn't say anything. Ken started to get ready to go, but I looked at the clock and saw we had an hour and a half left. I was mad because I had finally fallen asleep and then was woken up for no reason! I snuggled back in and tried to go back to sleep, which was impossible. The train started slowing down, which was weird because I thought the next stop was Kiev. Suddenly, I remembered that I had never changed the time on my phone for daylight savings time! So, we WERE about to stop at Kiev! There was about 5 minutes of frantic packing and getting dressed. We were ready when the train pulled in! Our driver was waiting for us outside and helped us order breakfast at McDonald's. We stayed there for about two hours, and then drove to the embassy and sat in the car for another hour. By then it was 9am and we could go to our appointment in the embassy. Finally, we made it to the airport! I was not looking forward to the airport. I always cause trouble because of my pump. I usually get a pat down and they swab my hands and pump. But I don't speak Russian or Ukrainian, and so I didn't know how I was going to make it through security! If I hide my pump well enough, I can go through metal detectors, but in Ukraine they had the body scanners. The security woman did not speak any English and had no idea what a pump was! At first she thought it was a phone, and told me to put it through the xray machine. I showed her where it was connected to me, and she had NO idea what to do with me! She called another guy over and they stood there examining my pump and trying to figure out what to do! Another security officer saw what was happening and asked me, "Insulin?" I nodded and she yelled something at the first two workers, and told them to let me through! So I made it through alive. :) Next time, I am going to have a card with me that says "I have a medical device" or something like that. I can say "diabetic" and "pump" in Russian, but that doesn't help when they don't know what a pump is! At least now I know that the word for insulin is...insulin. Hopefully that will help next time!
We made it home around 1:30am. We picked Brennan up from my mom's house in the morning. He was so happy to see us! At first he was confused and overwhelmed, but that only lasted about 30 seconds. He kept sitting in his daddy's lap and looking around with a HUGE smile on his face. He didn't want to sit with me very much, but I was expecting that. After awhile he would run over to me, back up into my lap, sit for about 6 seconds, then run back to his daddy's lap! He did that a few times, and then he brought a book over to me to read, so I got a little more snuggle time that way. Brennan has been SO happy today. He keeps smiling at me for no reason at all. I think he's pretty happy that we're home. :)
Court went well, and we are now the parents of Charles Gabriel Andreev Meyer!
On Tuesday, our facilitator and translator met with us before court to tell us what to expect. Apparently, in our region the judge is quite thorough. Then we sat in the hallway for about an hour and a half before we finally got started, an hour late. We were actually hoping we'd start late, because then we would get asked fewer questions because the judge would be in a hurry! In the courtroom we the judge, 2 jurors, the secretary, prosecutor, social worker/inspector, baby house representative, our facilitator and translator, and us. I was very nervous! It went smoothly though. I was the "speaker", so I stood and talked about our family, our home, and why we wanted to adopt Charlie. One juror asked us about our home, one asked if Brennan was our biological or adopted son. The prosecutor asked why we wanted to adopt, because we were so young and could make more biological babies. (We got MANY comments about how young we are during the whole process!) The baby house rep and the social worker talked about Charlie's records and the fact that no Ukrainians wanted to adopt him because of his health conditions. The judge and jurors left to make their decision, and everyone else left too, because they knew the judge would say yes! And he did, of course! He came back in and announced his decision, told us good luck, and that was it. The whole thing took about 40 minutes, and that includes a lot of formalities at the beginning. Our translator said "You just gave birth!" :)
After court, we went to visit Charlie, then got on the train to Kiev. It's really hard to sleep on the train, but I set my alarm just in case. I set it for half an hour before we were supposed to arrive. I did fall asleep somewhere in the early morning, but about 20 minutes later someone was knocking on our door! The train lady handed us our tickets back, but didn't say anything. Ken started to get ready to go, but I looked at the clock and saw we had an hour and a half left. I was mad because I had finally fallen asleep and then was woken up for no reason! I snuggled back in and tried to go back to sleep, which was impossible. The train started slowing down, which was weird because I thought the next stop was Kiev. Suddenly, I remembered that I had never changed the time on my phone for daylight savings time! So, we WERE about to stop at Kiev! There was about 5 minutes of frantic packing and getting dressed. We were ready when the train pulled in! Our driver was waiting for us outside and helped us order breakfast at McDonald's. We stayed there for about two hours, and then drove to the embassy and sat in the car for another hour. By then it was 9am and we could go to our appointment in the embassy. Finally, we made it to the airport! I was not looking forward to the airport. I always cause trouble because of my pump. I usually get a pat down and they swab my hands and pump. But I don't speak Russian or Ukrainian, and so I didn't know how I was going to make it through security! If I hide my pump well enough, I can go through metal detectors, but in Ukraine they had the body scanners. The security woman did not speak any English and had no idea what a pump was! At first she thought it was a phone, and told me to put it through the xray machine. I showed her where it was connected to me, and she had NO idea what to do with me! She called another guy over and they stood there examining my pump and trying to figure out what to do! Another security officer saw what was happening and asked me, "Insulin?" I nodded and she yelled something at the first two workers, and told them to let me through! So I made it through alive. :) Next time, I am going to have a card with me that says "I have a medical device" or something like that. I can say "diabetic" and "pump" in Russian, but that doesn't help when they don't know what a pump is! At least now I know that the word for insulin is...insulin. Hopefully that will help next time!
We made it home around 1:30am. We picked Brennan up from my mom's house in the morning. He was so happy to see us! At first he was confused and overwhelmed, but that only lasted about 30 seconds. He kept sitting in his daddy's lap and looking around with a HUGE smile on his face. He didn't want to sit with me very much, but I was expecting that. After awhile he would run over to me, back up into my lap, sit for about 6 seconds, then run back to his daddy's lap! He did that a few times, and then he brought a book over to me to read, so I got a little more snuggle time that way. Brennan has been SO happy today. He keeps smiling at me for no reason at all. I think he's pretty happy that we're home. :)
Monday, March 28, 2011
Adventures in town and Court tomorrow!
I am not a very adventurous person. I'm just not. I like familiarity and routine.
Ukraine is waaay out of my routine!
I've been having a blast though. It helps that I have my brave husband with me! Lol! On Saturday we went on an adventure. After visiting Charlie, we took the bus all the way down to the middle of town, to Sovetskaya - the shopping street. No cars are allowed on this street and it is lined with shops. In the middle is a park, and if you keep walking down you will get to the river. We walked down to the river before and did a little shopping. We found Cat in the Hat in Russian! This time, Ken wanted to eat at a restaurant. For him, that's no big deal, because he will eat whatever the waitress brings him! But for me - yikes. My Russian is not good enough to say, "I don't like pepperstomatoessaladsourcreamonionsredsauceketchup and not too many spices, please." But, we went anyway. We had a hard time actually getting INTO the restaurant (there were 4 different doors!) and the hostess already thought we were nuts. When we got the menus, I didn't recognize anything except a page of salads - which I don't like! I probably would have found something, but the waitress came and I couldn't explain to her that I needed more time. She spoke enough English to ask us "Meat? Fish? Salad?" We said meat, and she pointed to something that sounded like steak kabob. So we went with that, even though I don't like 98% of kabobs. Turns out it was NOT a kabob! It was some sort of steak (we assume) coated in onions and something green, and wrapped in a thin tortilla. I ate most of it, and it was pretty good! On the way home we bought a bunch of pastries from 2 stands. At one of them, Ken bought something that he thought was a sweet pastry, but it actually had meat inside! We also got some delicious apple pastries. It was a nice way to spend a Saturday, all in all. (There you go, Mom ;) )
Charlie has been very tired the last two days! Sunday was daylight savings time over here, and I think Charlie is tired from adjusting to the time change. We take time out from playing to relax, but Charlie doesn't relax well. He's interested in every little thing that he can see or hear! Just like another little boy I know! (Brennan!) I hope he sleeps on the plane. I can see this going poorly, lol!
We brought a few toys with us from home for Charlie. His favorites were the touch-and-feel book, a ball, and a plastic book that talks. He loves slamming the pages of the plastic book; it makes such a satisfying noise! A few days ago we had the book lying next to us on the bench, and Charlie discovered that if he kicked it, it made noise! He thought it was hysterical. He's very interested in his feet, and we encourage him using them. You can tell they haven't gotten much use. His legs are mostly limp noodles, although his toys wiggle when he's excited! The ball has been a lot of fun because Charlie is fascinated by the fact that when he drops something, Mama picks it up! We cheer for him when he throws it down to the ground, and he likes that too. It's hard to play with the ball in the hallway, where there's always people walking by, so we took our measuring tape and made a loop through the ball. Now we just sit on the bench and pull the ball back to us! Some may call that lazy, I call it ingenious. :)
Tomorrow we have court. It is scheduled for 2pm, but they always run late. Today we signed some paperwork in preparation for leaving (since Ken won't be coming back with me), and tomorrow our translator will go through everything with us and tell us what to expect in court. Our facilitator asked the judge today if everything was prepared for tomorrow for a smooth process, and the judge replied, "If I don't die!" So we should have a smooth day! After that, we will say goodbye to Charlie, then hop on a train to Kiev! Our flight leaves around noon. I can't wait to sleep in my own bed then wake up and see my little boy. :)
Ukraine is waaay out of my routine!
I've been having a blast though. It helps that I have my brave husband with me! Lol! On Saturday we went on an adventure. After visiting Charlie, we took the bus all the way down to the middle of town, to Sovetskaya - the shopping street. No cars are allowed on this street and it is lined with shops. In the middle is a park, and if you keep walking down you will get to the river. We walked down to the river before and did a little shopping. We found Cat in the Hat in Russian! This time, Ken wanted to eat at a restaurant. For him, that's no big deal, because he will eat whatever the waitress brings him! But for me - yikes. My Russian is not good enough to say, "I don't like pepperstomatoessaladsourcreamonionsredsauceketchup and not too many spices, please." But, we went anyway. We had a hard time actually getting INTO the restaurant (there were 4 different doors!) and the hostess already thought we were nuts. When we got the menus, I didn't recognize anything except a page of salads - which I don't like! I probably would have found something, but the waitress came and I couldn't explain to her that I needed more time. She spoke enough English to ask us "Meat? Fish? Salad?" We said meat, and she pointed to something that sounded like steak kabob. So we went with that, even though I don't like 98% of kabobs. Turns out it was NOT a kabob! It was some sort of steak (we assume) coated in onions and something green, and wrapped in a thin tortilla. I ate most of it, and it was pretty good! On the way home we bought a bunch of pastries from 2 stands. At one of them, Ken bought something that he thought was a sweet pastry, but it actually had meat inside! We also got some delicious apple pastries. It was a nice way to spend a Saturday, all in all. (There you go, Mom ;) )
Charlie has been very tired the last two days! Sunday was daylight savings time over here, and I think Charlie is tired from adjusting to the time change. We take time out from playing to relax, but Charlie doesn't relax well. He's interested in every little thing that he can see or hear! Just like another little boy I know! (Brennan!) I hope he sleeps on the plane. I can see this going poorly, lol!
We brought a few toys with us from home for Charlie. His favorites were the touch-and-feel book, a ball, and a plastic book that talks. He loves slamming the pages of the plastic book; it makes such a satisfying noise! A few days ago we had the book lying next to us on the bench, and Charlie discovered that if he kicked it, it made noise! He thought it was hysterical. He's very interested in his feet, and we encourage him using them. You can tell they haven't gotten much use. His legs are mostly limp noodles, although his toys wiggle when he's excited! The ball has been a lot of fun because Charlie is fascinated by the fact that when he drops something, Mama picks it up! We cheer for him when he throws it down to the ground, and he likes that too. It's hard to play with the ball in the hallway, where there's always people walking by, so we took our measuring tape and made a loop through the ball. Now we just sit on the bench and pull the ball back to us! Some may call that lazy, I call it ingenious. :)
Tomorrow we have court. It is scheduled for 2pm, but they always run late. Today we signed some paperwork in preparation for leaving (since Ken won't be coming back with me), and tomorrow our translator will go through everything with us and tell us what to expect in court. Our facilitator asked the judge today if everything was prepared for tomorrow for a smooth process, and the judge replied, "If I don't die!" So we should have a smooth day! After that, we will say goodbye to Charlie, then hop on a train to Kiev! Our flight leaves around noon. I can't wait to sleep in my own bed then wake up and see my little boy. :)
Saturday, March 26, 2011
The Charlie I've Always Known
What a sweet little boy God has found us!
For months, I've been looking at the one picture we had of Charlie, dreaming about what he might be like, how big he might be, how he was doing. Being here has been entirely surreal. This dream I've been dreaming can't possibly be real. But it is, and he is, and he's wonderful. Charlie is exactly what I expected, even though in many ways he isn't. I know that's not logical! It's hard to explain. He's just Charlie, he's the Charlie I've always known, even though I've only "known" him for a little over a week. He's the Charlie my heart has always known.
For the first 2 or 3 days that we visited Charlie, we were strangers to him. We were all right, in his book, because we brought fun toys and paid attention to him. He preferred to lay on the floor, because that's what he was used to, and he was quite happy there.
But now we have a different Charlie. A Charlie who is excited to see us, who reaches for me when we come to visit. Now, when we lay him down to play, he fusses and gets upset. He prefers to be held! So we hold him - who can deny a child who's been waiting 3 years to be held? We'll spoil him til he's rotten, and by then he'll be ready to crawl and then walk anyway, and won't want so many snuggles. His nannies have held him, of course - but that's nothing compared to a Mama Snuggle.
Today as Charlie's nanny was getting him ready for our visit, she could see the excitement in Charlie. She turned to another nanny and told her, "He understands - it's his Mami and Papi."
Yep, Charlie, we're your Mami and Papi. And we love you!
For months, I've been looking at the one picture we had of Charlie, dreaming about what he might be like, how big he might be, how he was doing. Being here has been entirely surreal. This dream I've been dreaming can't possibly be real. But it is, and he is, and he's wonderful. Charlie is exactly what I expected, even though in many ways he isn't. I know that's not logical! It's hard to explain. He's just Charlie, he's the Charlie I've always known, even though I've only "known" him for a little over a week. He's the Charlie my heart has always known.
For the first 2 or 3 days that we visited Charlie, we were strangers to him. We were all right, in his book, because we brought fun toys and paid attention to him. He preferred to lay on the floor, because that's what he was used to, and he was quite happy there.
But now we have a different Charlie. A Charlie who is excited to see us, who reaches for me when we come to visit. Now, when we lay him down to play, he fusses and gets upset. He prefers to be held! So we hold him - who can deny a child who's been waiting 3 years to be held? We'll spoil him til he's rotten, and by then he'll be ready to crawl and then walk anyway, and won't want so many snuggles. His nannies have held him, of course - but that's nothing compared to a Mama Snuggle.
Today as Charlie's nanny was getting him ready for our visit, she could see the excitement in Charlie. She turned to another nanny and told her, "He understands - it's his Mami and Papi."
Yep, Charlie, we're your Mami and Papi. And we love you!
Thursday, March 24, 2011
Court date!
Our court date has been set for Tuesday, the 29th. It's later than we were hoping for, but the end is in sight! After court, we will take the overnight train to Kyiv and fly out that afternoon! Then I will return on April 9th to finish up the process and bring Charlie home!
Now I know why all the other adoptive parents compare this to groundhog day! We do the same thing everyday. We get up late, usually go somewhere in the AM (walking, shopping, etc), visit Charlie in the afternoon, and watch a movie at night. In between all that, we read, use the computer, and do word puzzles. Real exciting, eh? It is getting a little redundant, but the excitement of being in a different country is still good enough to keep us going! Well, for me anyway - Ken is QUITE happy to lay around reading all day! :)
Charlie recognizes us now, and often he seems happy to see us. We only visit him for about an hour and a half per day. During the morning visiting hours, he's sleeping. In the afternoon, our visit is wedged between nap and snack times. The last few days, we've taken Charlie outside and we slowly walk around the baby house a few times before playing with him inside. It's really nice when we get a room to ourselves to visit with him, because we can lay him down on the couch, and we can take off some of his clothes when he gets too hot. Other times we play with him in a long hallway. There's benches and toys for this purpose, but he can't play with any of the toys, and he can't sit up properly on the little benches. So, he just sits on our laps and plays with whatever little toy we brought for the day! There's a sort of faux-jungle gym set up at the end of the hallway, and he likes banging the swinging rings around. They make a great noise! But this really wears him out! He doesn't last very long doing any sort of physical activity. Plus, he's always sweating through his clothes, and I think being that hot makes him sleepy on top of everything else! He's usually wearing three shirts, overalls, tights, and socks. Often the nannies insist on a sweater too. Ok, enough of my babbling, I know you are here for the pictures!
Now I know why all the other adoptive parents compare this to groundhog day! We do the same thing everyday. We get up late, usually go somewhere in the AM (walking, shopping, etc), visit Charlie in the afternoon, and watch a movie at night. In between all that, we read, use the computer, and do word puzzles. Real exciting, eh? It is getting a little redundant, but the excitement of being in a different country is still good enough to keep us going! Well, for me anyway - Ken is QUITE happy to lay around reading all day! :)
Charlie recognizes us now, and often he seems happy to see us. We only visit him for about an hour and a half per day. During the morning visiting hours, he's sleeping. In the afternoon, our visit is wedged between nap and snack times. The last few days, we've taken Charlie outside and we slowly walk around the baby house a few times before playing with him inside. It's really nice when we get a room to ourselves to visit with him, because we can lay him down on the couch, and we can take off some of his clothes when he gets too hot. Other times we play with him in a long hallway. There's benches and toys for this purpose, but he can't play with any of the toys, and he can't sit up properly on the little benches. So, he just sits on our laps and plays with whatever little toy we brought for the day! There's a sort of faux-jungle gym set up at the end of the hallway, and he likes banging the swinging rings around. They make a great noise! But this really wears him out! He doesn't last very long doing any sort of physical activity. Plus, he's always sweating through his clothes, and I think being that hot makes him sleepy on top of everything else! He's usually wearing three shirts, overalls, tights, and socks. Often the nannies insist on a sweater too. Ok, enough of my babbling, I know you are here for the pictures!
"Save me, Papa!"
The hallway where we visit
It's 50 degrees out, but Charlie still needs a snowsuit and hat. :)
The groupa's playground
The ladder to nowhere
Lounging
Watching the food cart go by!
Picture Post
Independence Square, Kyiv
Our friends who showed us around Kyiv!
View of the Dnipro
This is outside the SDA. Across the street you can see the little shops where you can buy souvenirs. The green, white, and red sign is the Italian restaurant that has an English menu.
Church right next to the SDA.
Our train cabin. That's pretty much how big it was!
SUPER yummy cookies! They're wafers with filling, but our facilitator calls them "waffles".
Salt in a cute little box
This yogurt is SO good. I wish I could take a bunch home with me!
Sunday, March 20, 2011
Getting the hang of it
Yesterday when we visited Charlie, we had a room all to ourselves, which was really nice for the three of us to get to know each other. It's strange when all the nannies are watching you, and they can communicate with your child but you can't. So it was nice to be alone! He took a few minutes to get used to us again. We brought a touch-and-feel book for him, and he LOVED it. There are two pages that are scratchy textures, and he liked those the best. We showed him how to feel them and his little fingers went crazy! Then he figured out how to turn the pages too. He could have played with that all day! When he is with us, he has to do a lot more work than he is used to, so he got pretty tired out! At one point he just wanted me to stand and rock him, so we did that for awhile. Charlie is so curious, he checks out everything in the room and wants to touch everything!
Yesterday I got homesick for the first time. The first few days we were here, we were so busy, and everything was so new, that I never really felt homesick - besides missing Brennan. But now our days are very slow. I wanted so many things - to kiss Brennan, to speak in English, popsicles, to be able to go to the store and find what I need, to not be so dependent on other people. But today was a better day. We did great going all over the city on our own, and I even found Tide at the store! It's the little things that help. :)
Today we tried going to the orphanage on our own. Our facilitator had shown us how to use the buses yesterday. So, today we went down to the bus stop to try it out. There are 4 buses we can take, and we got on the first one that came. We paid, got comfortable, and the bus turned down the wrong road! We were quite worried, but figured the worst that could happen is we'd ride the whole circle and get back off at our original stop. The bus did eventually get to our stop, but we were coming from a different angle so I didn't notice until we were past. So we got off on the next stop and walked back. When we left the orphanage, we decided just to walk back. We stopped at a market on the way and got a bag full of snacks! We had plenty of food at our apartment, but we're really snack people. (We've been eating more chocolate than either of our mothers care to know about!) We got a large bag full of things - milk, popcorn, pop, cookies, pastries, etc. - for only about $12! This is one thing about Ukraine that I love! We made it home with no problems. At one point we were worried because nothing looked familiar, but I found a street sign and we were on the right road!
Charlie seemed excited to see us today! As far as we could tell, anyway! We got a bunch of real smiles today, which was wonderful. He's warming up to us! We brought his favorite book, which he liked, and he loves our camera. A lot! He is really interested when we play with his feet! He has good upper body strength, but his legs pretty much just dangle. He doesn't put weight on them at all. We'll be trying out a few foot/leg games with Charlie to see if we can start building some muscle!
Yesterday I got homesick for the first time. The first few days we were here, we were so busy, and everything was so new, that I never really felt homesick - besides missing Brennan. But now our days are very slow. I wanted so many things - to kiss Brennan, to speak in English, popsicles, to be able to go to the store and find what I need, to not be so dependent on other people. But today was a better day. We did great going all over the city on our own, and I even found Tide at the store! It's the little things that help. :)
Today we tried going to the orphanage on our own. Our facilitator had shown us how to use the buses yesterday. So, today we went down to the bus stop to try it out. There are 4 buses we can take, and we got on the first one that came. We paid, got comfortable, and the bus turned down the wrong road! We were quite worried, but figured the worst that could happen is we'd ride the whole circle and get back off at our original stop. The bus did eventually get to our stop, but we were coming from a different angle so I didn't notice until we were past. So we got off on the next stop and walked back. When we left the orphanage, we decided just to walk back. We stopped at a market on the way and got a bag full of snacks! We had plenty of food at our apartment, but we're really snack people. (We've been eating more chocolate than either of our mothers care to know about!) We got a large bag full of things - milk, popcorn, pop, cookies, pastries, etc. - for only about $12! This is one thing about Ukraine that I love! We made it home with no problems. At one point we were worried because nothing looked familiar, but I found a street sign and we were on the right road!
Charlie seemed excited to see us today! As far as we could tell, anyway! We got a bunch of real smiles today, which was wonderful. He's warming up to us! We brought his favorite book, which he liked, and he loves our camera. A lot! He is really interested when we play with his feet! He has good upper body strength, but his legs pretty much just dangle. He doesn't put weight on them at all. We'll be trying out a few foot/leg games with Charlie to see if we can start building some muscle!
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